Information about Mental Illness & Homelessness
 

How to Talk To People Who Have a Mental Illness

“Even when a person with mental illness is extremely sick and can't control his or her behavior, the person still usually knows when those around him or her are being respectful. Trust can start to build on respect and empathy; and the trusting relationship can be a life-line to the sick and disoriented individual. This is especially true if the person helping appears to be an authority figure, like people in uniforms, suits, and especially those with guns and cuffs.”Dave Allen,  A Consumer

Do you have contact with people who have mental illness and need help? Perhaps you serve as a volunteer or staff person at a shelter, soup kitchen, outreach office, church, or on the street? Be aware that you might be able, with information from this directory, to tell a needy person where to go for help. Or, you might even be able to assist the individual in getting to a mental health worker, clinic, Social Security Office, or wherever he or she needs to go. Just making an on-the-spot telephone call to let the person talk to a trained mental health counselor (available 24-hours a day) might help someone find the help she or he needs, including the assistance they might need to find housing and case management.

Often, when a mental illness appears present, you might be at a loss on what to say and do. It is most important to convey that you are genuinely concerned for the person's welfare. There are people who by their behavior, conversation, or mannerisms signal they may have a mental illness. But many people with mental illness do not exhibit, based on casual contact, these obvious visual or verbal signals.

Relationships are extremely valuable. When the person has known you for a while and has learned to trust you, he or she is much more likely to open up and accept help.

Knowing the right words to use and having a respectful attitude when you are talking to a person who may have a mental illness is important. Even when a person with mental illness is extremely sick and can't control his or her behavior, the person still usually knows when those around him or her are being disrespectful. Trust can build on respect and empathy; and the trusting relationship can be a life-line to the sick and disoriented individual. This is especially true if the person helping him or her appears to be an authority figure, like people in uniforms, suits, and especially those with guns and cuffs.

Avoid arguing or denying that what the person with mental illness is seeing, hearing and feeling is real. Instead, assure him/her of your care and understanding, that what they are experiencing is real to them and that you want to help. Honesty is always essential. He or she needs to know that you can be trusted. Do not be discouraged if the person does not comprehend what you are saying when he/she is psychotic. Even though the thoughts of the ill person are disordered, he or she may perceive and remember later. Learn as much as you can about the mental health system and how it responds, or fails to respond to the indigent people with mental illness. Know what to do before a crisis develops. You will then be better able to evaluate the situation and ask for help when it is really needed.

As you deal with the situation, keep in mind mental illness is not the fault of the person. It causes much distress, not always expressed outwardly, to the person dealing with the suffering. He or she may not be able to tell you how the mental pain is hurting. Know what steps to take if the individual with mental illness in crisis, or just needs to get in touch with mental health workers who can determine what needs to be done. This directory provides information that may help you know where to turn. It gives you a starting point to begin to help individuals with mental illness wherever you meet them. It may be that if you do not help the man or woman you meet, no one will.